Am i dating the wrong person
These would be signs that it may be time to call it quits or, at least, seek counseling or outside help.If people are willing to challenge themselves and overcome their defenses, they can learn to create a happy, satisfying, long-term relationship with their chosen partner.Now, with all that said, of course there are some relationships that just don’t work.If you just abandon ship or jump in to a new relationship, you never learn a different style of relating.So, for all those couples that were once blissfully happy and genuinely drawn to each other based on real qualities they each possessed, I truly believe that where there is a will, there is a way.However, just rejecting your partner does not solve the underlying issue, for either of you.Facing and challenging the defenses that lead you to choose the partners you do is the important task to breaking this pattern.What attracts people to one another can be the very defenses that hold them back in life—for instance, the shy, indecisive person who chooses a loud, dominant partner.
Some people actually have a toxic effect on each other, in which the mental health of the individuals involved deteriorates. Certainly, the answer is unique to your relationship.
But there are some red flags to look out for—most importantly, those that indicate that you or your partner are experiencing an increase in psychological symptoms or a degradation in your ability to function.