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“Some people didn’t want him at their children’s parties because he is not the same as other children. She and Daniel’s father Barry, 66, a support worker, who have been married for 33 years, had largely given up hope that their son might find love, happiness and a relationship as strong as theirs, something he had told them was his dream. His first song – entitled The Black of Lonely – described the melancholy of being alone.For a mother, the lyrics cannot have been easy listening.“He insisted on wearing dark sunglasses everywhere.He wouldn’t go into the school assembly if there was a play on and if he walked into a room with people in, even if he knew them, he would have his eyes closed for the first half hour, even behind the sunglasses.” On the autistic spectrum, he has struggled with speech and comprehending others for most of his life.Now, he gets the coolest dudes coming up to him saying, ‘High five, respect!’ And the girls say they wish their boyfriends were more like him.
The Undateables, a BAFTA-nominated series now in its fifth run, is a reality show chronicling the lives of single people with disabilities and learning difficulties looking for love. Daniel has taken part in three episodes, become its unlikely star and a poster boy for autism. I don’t think a day goes by when someone doesn’t ask for a photo or autograph.His unwaveringly happy outlook, earnest pursuit of love and one-liners (“Well look who she is! ” and, when asked by one girl what their future held, “We might go to Eastbourne, if you want to”) have spawned a dedicated online fan base and drawn comparisons even with One Direction heartthrob Harry Styles. “Three years ago Daniel would have walked down the street, spoken differently, and people would have looked at him strangely.“It’s as though someone is inside his head and they have a long strip of paper with all the sentences on and they’re cutting each word up and throwing it out in the wrong order,” says Carol, 57.His parents battled to get him coveted spots at specialist speech and language schools and avoid the likelihood of bullying, but they couldn’t shield him completely.
People who wouldn’t have spoken to him before are realising, actually, he is no different to them. He has gone from strength to strength and it has changed our lives dramatically.” Last year the show was accused by the British Medical Association of exploiting the vulnerable to provoke laughter by turning those with Tourette’s, Down’s syndrome and Asperger’s into “a source of comedy”. But after watching it for the first time I thought it was brilliant.
Critics also questioned whether participants could truly give informed consent to becoming TV stars. I said I had to be involved every step of the way.” After his first episode aired, feedback was overwhelmingly positive, apart from the suggestion by one journalist that Carol and Barry were being taken advantage of.