Considering dating an older guy
Not to shade my 30-year-old dude-brethren—no one age is inherently better or worse than another—but a much-younger guy (who is, of course, already an adult with a perspective of his own) can feel like a vacay from the particular difficulties of men who have had to come to terms with their new hairlines and old girlfriends. With seven or whatever years on him of finding your way in the world, you know an incredible amount that he doesn’t, and he probably likes that about you and wants to be close up to your experience and intelligence and difference.
) in that your married friends are still the outliers, and almost no one you know is having kids and approaching life as an actual adult still feels kind of optional. In addition to the obvious stuff of a 23-year-old having the body and physical energy and make-out enthusiasm of…
a 23-year-old, there is this space ahead of them not yet populated by the bruises of broken hearts and bad relationships, and the hurt of the inevitable limitations and disappointments of life, even a life that is super-lucky, super-happy, and super-cool.