Dating men 20 years older than me
It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. Men want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want older men.
They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. Don’t get me wrong, there are advantages in a 45-year-old guy. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….
This is the most compelling reason behind why younger women might go for older men: they’re daddy substitutes.But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows who Limp Bizkit is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.