Dating people in wheel chairs
I tried putting it in my profile and taking it out in an attempt to feel out what was the best thing to do and what felt right to me as a person.
And ultimately, for the most part, I ended up choosing not to use photos where my disability was obvious.
The photos I used weren't cropped weirdly or anything — if you looked closely you could see it, but you wouldn't maybe notice it.
I never did that in an attempt to deceptive, I just wanted people to get to know me as a person and not me as a person in a wheelchair.
Kristen, 30, is paralyzed from the waist down and gets around in a wheelchair.
She's single, and has lived in and dated on Tinder in three different cities — Los Angeles, Boston, and New York — and spoke with about what it's really like to Tinder date when you're paraplegic.
I was in a car accident when I was 5, when my family and I were coming home from ice skating a couple of days after Christmas, and it resulted in a spinal cord injury, so I've been in a wheelchair for a long time now.
I've usually ended up dating guys who I met in real life and my being in a wheelchair was usually never a problem in my dating life until I started meeting guys on Tinder. A., then moved to Boston for work, and now I live in New York City.
I originally thought I should, but then my friends told me I didn't have to do that if I didn't want to because my disability doesn't impact the type of activities I'm into, or who I am, or even my day to day.
But then I worried if I didn't include it in the profile, I would feel like I was lying.
I thought my experiences with Tinder dating in different cities would be different, but weirdly, I found it was totally the same in all three cities.
When I first set up my Tinder profile, I wasn't sure if I should make my disability super obvious in my photos.