Dating your husband during separation
[Solution: tell him your relationship matters a lot to you and ask him what you can do now to get that relationship back on track] He's full of resentment over getting belittled for some small overlooked chore.
[Solution: treat your man with respect, even when you feel he's left you in the role of the responsible one; he's no child] He longs to feel respected but feels taken for granted.
Usually, I write for people becoming distressed over their marriage.
Recently, though, I have had an unusual number of comments from folks blindsided by a spouse who wants out.
[Prepare for a long road back if he'll have you, and go read Dear for starters] You're putting up with disrespect or excessive dependency from your kids, whether he's their parent or step-parent.
[Solution: look for Third Alternative solutions to your differences about how to raise them or how they should behave around you] You're so busy being a good provider, mom, housekeeper, volunteer, or lost soul that you two no longer experience the emotion of love several times a day, that delicious bonus emotion felt in your chest when the two of you resonate with a shared experience of joy, amusement, awe, comfort, elevation, or better.
In this post and the one before it, I tackle the question of how to avoid being blindsided. You might hurt him or make him feel like dirt at any moment, usually while you're drinking, doing drugs, or crazy angry.
About twice as many divorces are initiated by wives as by husbands, but even men sometimes say, "I love you, but I am no longer 'in love' with you." If it happens to you, your marriage is not over yet, but it could be soon. [Solution: rehab, therapy, anger management classes, or Dr.
Stosny's Boot Camp] He has unmet needs he expects you to meet and you're giving them and him the cold shoulder.
[Solution: invite discussion of those needs, show you care about them, and help him find Third Alternative ways to get them met that don't conflict with your needs or call for abilities you don't possess] He's full of resentment over something you did or didn't do in the past.