Sex is really good, faulty compatible in other ways too. But he has told me he likes to wear diapers sometimes.Not in a sexual way, and he said he doesn't want me to do it with him.("Is that gun in your diaper or are you just happy to see me?So he may have told you there's nothing sexual about his thing for diapers, DIAPER, because he thinks that makes his thing for diapers seem less sordid and objectionable.That said, DIAPER, "this make me feel safe" and "this makes my dick hard" aren't mutually-exclusive phenomenon. (And if diapers really do make adults feel safe — we're going to need some data on that — we could rebrand them as "portable safe spaces" and make them available at our better universities.) Another clue there's something sexual about this thing for diapers: not wanting you around while he wears them.(Some just like to wear 'em, not fill 'em.) It sounds like PNB is already struggling with kink- and/or sex-shame, DIAPER, and the assumption you've made about the extent of his diaper play...well, let's just say it might put him on the defensive.First things first: You shouldn't assume (contra your sign-off) that Potential New Boyfriend (PNB) is pooping his diapers.
Maybe diapers are private and something he enjoys alone...or maybe the sight of him in diapers makes the sexual aspect hard to deny.Even if it's accurate, DIAPER, which it most likely isn't. You have a hard time believing PNB when he says there's nothing sexual about his interest in diapers, DIAPER, and that makes two of us.Seeing as he's already succumbed to shame where his kink is concerned — or it might be more accurate to say he hasn't dug himself out from under the shame almost all kinksters struggle with initially — he very likely struggles with the sex-negativity that comes bundled together with kink-shame.
It's just that every now and then he likes to wear diapers because they make him feel "safe." He says this behavior isn't actually sexual for him but I'm having trouble believing him. I'm trying to think of more questions I can ask him since he seems open to telling me more about it.He's told that this embarrasses him and that he wishes it wasn't something he needed.