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Here are the ways in which I’ve made women friends: 1) . It’s easy to be friends with someone you’d never sleep with. While attraction itself is not a choice, acting on that attraction is.He’s merely accepting friendship, in lieu of dating you, because it beats the alternative. Having no girl friends, and, therefore, no one to confide in.From the same article: “Men rated cross-sex friendships as being much higher in overall quality, enjoyment and nurturance than their same-sex friendships.What they reported liking most was talking and relating to women—something they can’t do with their buddies.Meanwhile, women rated their same-sex friendships higher on all these counts.And while I don’t trust college boys to teach any life lessons in platonic friendship, even science validates their claim that men will sleep with their friends.From this Psychology Today article: “In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Sapadin asked more than 150 professional men and women what they liked and disliked about their cross-sex friendships. Men, on the other hand, more frequently replied that sexual attraction was a prime reason for initiating a friendship, and that it could even deepen a friendship.Men choose women because you listen to them, provide empathy and support and affection – none of which he really gets from his guy friends.
They expect more emotional rewards from friendship than men do, explained Sapadin, so they’re easily disappointed when they don’t receive them. “Men confide in women.” This all reinforces a principle extolled in my book, “Why He Disappeared”.Men don’t choose women because you’re taller, smarter, richer, funnier or more sophisticated.Either way, 62 percent of all subjects reported that sexual tension was present in their cross-sex friendships.” Pretty predictable, but important for women to understand.If a guy is making an effort to hang out with you, it’s probably not just “as friends”.
“When Harry Met Sally” posed the age-old question, and seemed to answer it: No. This popular You Tube video posits largely the same premise – men will always want to sleep with their platonic girlfriends.
But if you’re lucky, you can fall in love with your best friend.