Kissed dating goodbye summary
and look at what it means to bring these areas in line with God’s Word” (10).All the other books I’ve reviewed have done this: they continually conflate with “God’s will” or “what God wants for your life.” This is always done honestly– Stasi Eldredge and Nancy Leigh De Moss and Mark Driscoll and now Joshua Harris are all convinced that they’re representing God and “wisdom” and “Christian living” and whatever else, and they’re doing their best to do that faithfully.I mention both of these facts because it makes two things very clear: Joshua was an incredibly young man when he wrote this, and this is book is not the be-all-end-all of the courtship method that some have made it out to be.There are as many different ways to “court” as there are people, and I don’t want anyone coming at me with “but this book doesn’t represent .Because of all of that, I’m going to do my best to keep in mind that what he said in 1997 may not represent his views now (although I am working with the updated 2003 edition). Joshua writes, “Every relationship for a Christian is an opportunity to love another person as God loved us.” That sums up the book’s message Once we embrace this principle, the rest is just details. I’m going to end up massively disagreeing because the rest is almost absolutely not “just details.” I agree with the idea that every relationship is an opportunity to show the love of God to a person.
Or the next: “I want to help you examine the aspects of your life that dating touches …The problem enters with their pride and arrogance, because they haven’t wants. However, when what you think is right becomes a massively popular book that has done a lot of harm to a whole generation of Christians, then people like me should definitely spend some time kicking your pile of blocks over.Over 70% of the thousands of ratings this book has gotten are 4 or 5 stars, and it’s still relevant, still influential. However, the rest of the foreward is dedicated to how he didn’t kiss his wife until they were at the altar together, and that’s a pretty significant .“Showing God’s love in my relationships” doesn’t necessarily equal “I don’t kiss my girlfriend,” but that’s an idea that’s going to get lost a lot in the next 200 pages.
I’m also aware of the fact that a twenty-three-year-old is going to say some laughably naïve things about relationships, and I think that Joshua might be aware of that, too.I reached out to him and asked if he’d like to be a part of this review series, but since he’s in seminary now he said he couldn’t. And while mine won’t be the only critical review– there are plenty on Amazon and Goodreads– I think it may be the first in-depth review that gets down into the trenches and examines the it’s a book about following Christ and what that means for all our relationships with others– romantic or not.