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Now that I’m doing regular stand up and viewing it as a service to other people who might have lost a parent or might be struggling with their weight, just by telling my story – by being real in a funny way – I think that’s sort of the direction it seems to be going in. I stopped getting standing ovations at the end of 2013. The minute I started opening up more about real things that go on in my life – in a funny way – people started jumping up at the end of the show. I was so lucky and grateful that I did the surgery, because it opened me up to working on everything else.I said, “This is definitely the direction I should go in.” It’s a minor difference, but people seem to respond so much better. I think that’s because I probably grew up without a weight problem for 18 years. This is who I’m supposed to be.” That other stuff was who I wasn’t supposed to be. What advice do you have for women who are beginning a similar weight loss journey or looking to have the same surgery performed?Comedian Lisa Lampanelli gets honest about beauty with us. He said, “How many people do you see at 70 years old who are as overweight as you guys are? I was like, “Wow, am I going to cut my life short for food and emotional eating? Is there anything you gave up on the spot and haven’t eaten since surgery? Weight loss surgery is a tool but it’s not an easy, simple fix. It’s not, “Give up a certain food and you’ll lose weight.” I gave up sugar, but it has nothing to do with the weight loss.(Photo: Getty)Funny lady Lisa Lampanelli has roasted everyone – from William Shatner to Donald Trump, to Pamela Anderson. She’s written a memoir, served as a contestant on The Celebrity Apprentice, is working on a play, and has a special, Lisa Lampanelli: Back to the Drawing Board, premiering June 26 on EPIX. If not for dropping pounds, why did you axe sugar from your diet?
While you were losing the weight, and after, did you ever feel uncomfortable in your new body? If you have tried everything that you wanted to try for weight loss and have a clear conscience about every angle and every diet and every exercise program that you think is necessary for you to experiment with before – and you can really look at yourself in the mirror and go, “I can’t stop the self hate and the eating without getting the weight off first, and then I’ll tackle the emotional issues” – then get it done. I don’t know if I’ve ever said the word ‘beautiful’ when it comes to me, and I’m still really uncomfortable with the word, because I’m not some great beauty. I’m attractive enough to always have some cute or fun outfit on, and feel good on stage.Don’t get it done if you think the surgery ends the problem. If you don’t mind doing the hard work and the long haul once this weight is off, then they should get it. I have more of an inner beauty that comes through on stage – in the past year especially, due to this spiritual transformation.“When it comes to confidence, I think the term is ‘compare and despair.’ If you compare yourself to someone who you think is better than you, you’re going to always feel like a loser. Yahoo Beauty: What has changed for you, over the past few years? I lost about 90 pounds in 9 months, and lost about 107 total. I went to Yale drama summer school, and I just started doing things differently. I gained weight, and that started a 32-year struggle with weight and exercise and body image problems. When I hit 50, a friend of mine had had the surgery. They look to a substance to fill [it] because they don’t want to look internally with that thing. First it was food and dating, and having a boyfriend or a husband. The only thing I find healthy to fill the hole with now is service to other people: either by making them laugh or by sharing these experiences. I didn’t even think about food.”Triggers are everywhere. [He showed interest in the project.] The minute the stakes got a little high, I got sort of nervous and uncomfortable. The only reason I was allowed to have a career for a quarter century as an insult comic is because it’s all in jest and all for fun.If you compare yourself to someone who you perceive is worse than you, you’re going to feel a false sense of one-upmanship,” says Lampanelli. Lisa Lampanelli: I had gastric sleeve surgery in 2012, and it started this big chain reaction of me changing my whole life over. I just felt like I was 19 again and could do things over. I ended up getting a divorce, because the marriage just wasn’t working for either one of us. The second part of my life I thought it could be filled with fame or money or TV credits – things like that. What was the last thing that set off emotional eating? Emotionally eating doesn’t disappear because your stomach’s really small. I’m writing a play called Fat Girls Interrupted, about food and eating and body image. Audiences knows the message is, “I’m poking fun of everybody, including myself” to show we’re all the same. I’m cutting out a little just because acts aren’t the same they were years ago – you kind of grow as a person and a performer.
And she’s said some not-so-nice things…Hey, the 53-year-old didn’t earn her “Queen of Mean” title by praising others. Though she’s happy at her current size, after a radical weight loss (formerly weighing 248 pounds), Lampanelli doesn’t fancy the word ‘beautiful in her vocabulary. I felt younger than everybody else, even though I wasn’t. I started going to a lot of yoga retreats, and I attended a lecture where they talked about how sugar really feeds disease. If sugar is contributing in any way to something like that, I’m not going to do it. ” If I’m physically hungry, I eat something that’s hopefully good for me, and then do it again in a few hours. Were there monumental upsets that triggered your overeating? Little things can trigger you to grab something that’s not great for you, to comfort you and make you feel better, but there’s always something about food or alcohol, or co-dependency, or men, or dating, or sex, or shopping, that you think you can fill the hole with it. [I knew] this is a trigger to my uncomfortable-ness to his niceness, and I was uncomfortable knowing I have to deliver a script to a huge guy like that.She does know that stacking herself next to others isn’t productive and being self-assured is a personal thing. That lack of comparison helps you succeed and feel good about yourself on your own terms.”On June 22, Lampanelli will take the stage at the 92Y in New York City to discuss losing 107 pounds on her own terms, and finding a new life purpose and career in the process. That’s when I started emotionally eating and using food as medication, just like other people use alcohol or drugs or pot or shopping or anything else. (Photo: Getty Images)What made you decide to have the procedure? Every overweight person out there is not fat because they “love food.” They’re overweight because they don’t want to deal with what’s going on inside. If I get a phone call I don’t like, I’ll say to myself, “Is that the reason I want to eat something? There’s always sort of a hole inside that most people have. You’re approaching things differently career-wise, but you’re known as “The Queen of Mean”, are you cutting back on being as mean?