My daughter is dating a heroin addict
More than likely, many forms of help have been attempted, to no avail.
When living with an addict, the emotional harm endured by the co-addict, and/or, their children, may be far more damaging than the absence of the addict would be.
But in a co-addictive relationship, the co-addict may fear many things: A co-addict may even fear that if they leave, they won’t be there to see the addict get better, and the recovering addict will reject them because they left. If the co-addict is unhappy with their partner’s behavior, due to the influence of alcohol or drugs, chances are their life is unmanageable.
The only question in knowing when it is time to leave is; when will the co-addict be ready?
Then, we invite your questions about personal situations at the end.
From the very moment an addict mistreats you, abuses you (verbally or physically), stays out all night, gets high in front of you or your children, steals, or continually treats you in a way that is out of character, it is time to leave. And co-addiction recovery is really unique to each person.
So, even in the face of these difficulties, when should you start changing yourself?
Some co-addicts believe that by being the voice of reason in an unhealthy relationship, they may be able to help the addict recover, and a healthy relationship will be restored.
We explore the meaning of co-addiction here, what you can do about it, and how to take action.
Consequently, the addict’s recovery may be delayed because their partner is always around to pick up the pieces.
So what’s the number one reason people stay in a relationship with an addict or alcohol? In fact, it is only fear that drives a person to stay in a relationship they know deep down is extremely unhealthy.
Most decisions made by an enabler are rooted in fear.
The reality is, no fear of what will happen, is any worse than what is happening in their everyday lives.When a co-addict fully grasps the harm being done to them and/or children living with the addict, and they make a conscious decision to break the cycle—that is the right time to leave.