Old traditions of dating
I asked about dating and the courtship process and what they described fit the near universal paradigm. Ly disagreed, saying Viet Nam is still “more traditional than U. A.…a relationship of girlfriend and boyfriend not so common that before they marry they have sex together.Some even stopped to ask if they had been impolite in speaking so frankly.If you go to a public park and speak English, you’ll quickly acquire a crowd of Vietnamese children, students, and adults all eager to talk to you and pepper you with questions about America. They might also say you look like Taylor Swift – even if you do not look like her and even if you have brown hair. ” He might go up to her and ask, “What do you study in school?But on the ground in Saigon, this could not have seemed less true.I literally had people crowded around me, elbowing each other to answer my questions.
They will definitely want to take pictures with you and friend you on Facebook. ” He might say “hello and [giggling] after that he will say to her, ‘You can give me your number?
They will also ask you if you know any rich people to sponsor a visa. ’ And then they text message together and start dating.” Nguyen and Trang said kids have sex before marriage, usually starting around age 16.
I want culture of the other; I want ritual and strangeness and a more interesting story.
It took Saigon to illuminate my hypocrisy and to remind me that in an era when the virus of American culture devours and replaces almost everything it touches, we have to remember that “culture” falls all over the good-bad spectrum and so does Westernization.
In Thailand, a few friends told me I would never be able to get Vietnamese people to talk about their dating culture.They are known as a shy, proper, and generally more repressed people.