Racism dating online
But the more common and subtle form of discrimination found on gay dating apps comes from people who romantically speaking, claim they aren't attracted to people from certain ethnic groups.Often, they defend themselves by saying it's simply a matter of preference. Welcome to the special hell that is being a visible minority on Grindr."Blacks keep movin' cuz I aint interested unless you can prove not all blacks are the exact same." VICE reached out to Grindr for comment but did not hear back.
After doing a bit of digging, I found myself cringing internally at what I discovered.
He told me his definition of racism is when a person expresses a "malicious intent" and likened not being attracted to people of a certain race to his own disinterest in women."If someone actually cannot get turned on by someone from a minority group that's not really something they can change."Research published last year, however, suggests that's in fact bullshit—it's still racism (sexual racism, to be precise).
It's hardly a surprise that some of those people are racist, given the sheer size of the user base, but the brazenness with which bigoted messages are displayed, often in the form of disclaimers that sit front and centre on a person's profile, is unsettling."More into Vanilla and spice than chocolate and rice" reads one of thousands of profiles featured on Douchebags of Grindr, a blog dedicated solely to calling these people out, while another says, "Not into chopsticks [or] curry." Some of the offending posts are less cutesy e.g.
They read more like signs you'd see affixed to the doorway of a 60s-era American diner than messages you'd encounter on a modern dating forum. While straight women of colour are certainly not immune from encountering racist bullshit when dating online (and IRL), I can't say I've come across a Tinder or OKCupid profile that explicitly—or even implicitly—disqualified an entire racial group from getting in touch. The hookup app, owned by a straight Chinese billionaire, has grown exponentially since its 2009 launch and now has a reported five million monthly users in 196 countries around world.
Grindr, it appears, is one of the last bastions of open racism (and fat-shaming and ageism) that exists in a relatively PC society, with profiles at times mimicking a crass wish list e.g.
"no femmes" "no fatties" "gingers need not apply." It's not only white men perpetuating these ideas, either.