Students dating their teachers
It seems clear that in this situation the best solution is simply not to write letters for someone you have dated.It is also true that most romantic relationships come with a certain amount of push back, and some kinds of romantic relationships still get a lot of push back for things that many/most of us feel strongly are absolutely unproblematic: e.g.inter-racial relationships, same sex relationships. (In fact, I am very sorry to say that if your relationship is not inter-racial or same sex, any push back you get will probably be mild compared to that, and if it is, that will increase the push back considerably.) I recommend weighing the possible costs of such a relationship against the possible benefits. I know people who started dating their student, or even getting into marriage with them, and that's fine here.A female teacher had a relationship with a male ex-student after he graduated, and she was immediately fired.Actual ethics often take a back-seat to any (often biased and unfair) cultural standards as defined by parents, other faculty, or outside pressure. Although he is a CS professor while the student was a math major, so same department but different degree areas.student, so there is no present power dynamic, conflict of interest or anything like that.
And then I know people who've been dating almost 10 students in the past years, and that's not fine to anybody (but the students who get good grades and easy work...)@Yemon: I agree.
I was reading the situation as saying that the potential datee is really out of academia entirely..I forgot that we sometimes write nonacademic recommendation letters.