Tips on dating older men
I spent so much time telling myself that age didn’t matter when in the end, it totally did," she reflected.
"Or that certainly he had ill-intentions, because why else would a man his age be interested in someone so young?It sounds like he’s not letting you be your age.""She also discovered that some of her partner's beliefs differed from hers, and realized that being younger didn't mean she was in the wrong."Realize that your older partner grew up with different values than you, (which, [for me] proved to be a feat as a feminist dating an older man from the deep south).Now that we've been together for five years, that happens less frequently, but when he lets his beard grow out, which is gray, and we're out in public together, we still get questioning looks from strangers."These stereotypes can also be internalized. "Is it weird they've been divorced, or weird that they've never been married?Maya L., a 25-year-old writer who declined to give her last name, told ATTN: she had dated a 37-year-old man at 25, and a 29-year-old man when she was 22."I try to be open-minded, but sometimes you have to wonder why they're at where they're at. ""He was pretty established, had more money," Maya L.
Part of being honest with one another is accepting that it's okay to have different experiences.
Being younger doesn't inherently devalue your perspective."When we met I was 20 (almost 21) and he was 35," a 23-year-old Los Angeles native who chose to remain anonymous, told ATTN:."My advice is simple—be aware of the age gap.