Video to video sex chat
Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the specifics.
This week’s topic: How to have video and phone sex when you're in a long distance relationship.
Text and email can be one of the easiest places to start, especially if you’re shy.
You’ll have plenty of time to collect and edit your thoughts, so you probably won’t feel intimidated or put on the spot.
You can start off tame, with a little message that says, “I miss your arms around me” or “I want to kiss you right now.” As you start to feel more comfortable, up the naughty factor with texts like, “I wish you were here in bed next to me.” If you still feel unsure of how to phrase your thoughts, try reading erotic fiction for inspiration.
Get a sense of which words feel more natural to you than others. Next, try sending him an email describing what you’d like to do to him the next time you two see each other.
We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship.
But how often do we actually hear the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually achieve those things?
We’ve had a good sex life thus far, but I’m apprehensive about how the switch to long distance will affect our sex life. It’s jarring to go from seeing each other regularly to relying on technology for the vast majority of your interactions.I’m a little bit shy and haven’t been vocal about sex historically, so phone and video chat sex sound intimidating. It’s great that you have an established relationship, so hopefully you’ll be prepared to communicate about the ups and downs of the transition.