White on rice dating site
As a heterosexual female, this issue wasn't on my radar until gay friends—white ones included—brought it up in frustration.
After doing a bit of digging, I found myself cringing internally at what I discovered.
Scanning through bios, I noticed users of different backgrounds indicating racial preferences—typically for caucasians."It's like another world," said Toronto server Jeff Lau, 26, who said he's been rejected and fetishized on the app."People may think these things in real life but you would never see it as explicitly until you went on a gay dating site...
It's like an outlet for them to act out on it and live out this white supremacist idealism."Vancouver social worker Victor Huynh, 28, told VICE he was once approached on a site called Manhunt by a "rank 50-year-old" who told him he would be down to hook up "if I were just a few shades lighter.""I wrote back, 'Dude, that's fucked' and he said, 'Dude? People don't say 'dude' anymore.'" (They do, dude.)The conversation carried on for a few minutes, said Huynh, with the aggressor saying things like, "You're beautiful but you're just not good enough for me."When Huynh said the comments qualified as harassment, the man acknowledged he was being "rude" but added "that's just the way the world is and you don't fit into it." Obviously, there's no excuse for that kind of in-your-face hatred.
In one Grindr exchange between two men, one white, the other Asian, obtained by VICE, the white guy said, "I'm not generally attracted to Asian guys.
That's not racist."An Asian man who spoke to VICE but wanted to remain anonymous, supported this theory.
Welcome to the special hell that is being a visible minority on Grindr.
"Blacks keep movin' cuz I aint interested unless you can prove not all blacks are the exact same." VICE reached out to Grindr for comment but did not hear back.
They read more like signs you'd see affixed to the doorway of a 60s-era American diner than messages you'd encounter on a modern dating forum. While straight women of colour are certainly not immune from encountering racist bullshit when dating online (and IRL), I can't say I've come across a Tinder or OKCupid profile that explicitly—or even implicitly—disqualified an entire racial group from getting in touch. The hookup app, owned by a straight Chinese billionaire, has grown exponentially since its 2009 launch and now has a reported five million monthly users in 196 countries around world.But the more common and subtle form of discrimination found on gay dating apps comes from people who romantically speaking, claim they aren't attracted to people from certain ethnic groups.Often, they defend themselves by saying it's simply a matter of preference.Grindr, it appears, is one of the last bastions of open racism (and fat-shaming and ageism) that exists in a relatively PC society, with profiles at times mimicking a crass wish list e.g.
"no femmes" "no fatties" "gingers need not apply." It's not only white men perpetuating these ideas, either.He told me his definition of racism is when a person expresses a "malicious intent" and likened not being attracted to people of a certain race to his own disinterest in women."If someone actually cannot get turned on by someone from a minority group that's not really something they can change."Research published last year, however, suggests that's in fact bullshit—it's still racism (sexual racism, to be precise).