Who is chance dating now
Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. In dating, this happens ALL the time – when we do or say something “off” out of nerves – and we get screened out for a minor transgression that has absolutely nothing to do with our true character LFunny enough – I’ve heard two stories from Chicago women of a near missed connections – having to do with the same reason. Suddenly, my IPhone buzzes again: Mandy: “Hmmm, Keith just texted me that he had a great time, and wants to go out on Saturday.”Bela: “If 70% of the date was good, give him another chance, and don’t toss him back for one foul.They both almost let go of a good man because he played foul by female law on Date #1 – the old, leaving ‘em to get home/in the house by themselves. Saturday’s date was fantastic – they had a really fun night, and he said, “I haven’t met a girl as cool as you in a long time.” This week, they got a title: “boyfriend/girlfriend” Awwww!!!!If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. Rowling, “Ten Things You Shouldn't Say on a Date.1.
Dating Tip #2 - Almost Always Give Someone a Second Chance First impressions are crucial – but whoa – can they sometimes be wrong! Three weeks ago, my client “Mandy” went on a date with “Keith.” Promptly 90 minutes after the date had ended, I heard my cell phone buzz with a text: Mandy: “Don’t think Keith liked me very much.”Bela: “Why?Haven’t you ever said or done something, and wished that a giant “UNDO” button would appear, erasing the cringeworthy thing that just came out of your mouth? ”Mandy: “We left the bar, said goodbye, and he just took off. Now, being in the thick of it with each client, I’m a little bummed – and trying to think of a “make Mandy feel better” response.My childhood friend Amy was about to “ditch” her suitor Dr. Ugh – must be a narcissist, jackass”, and the judgements abounded. So, the moral of the dating story for this week is this: ”If more than 70% of the date is good (and the 30% has none of the deal breakers above – just minor trangressions/awkwardness) give him or her a second chance!Adam after the first date – when he dropped her off at home at 10pm, and just drove away – as she walked up to her apartment in the pitch black night. Amy called Adam the next day – fully intending to dump him, (slyly calling at 2pm, thinking he’d be at work, so she’d just get his answering machine).
And, he sent her an email with the text that’s on the cover of this blog!! They live in Lake Forest, IL – with 3 beautiful daughters.And, most importantly, Keith has not pulled any cab fouls again…. It reminded me of a personal story – of a good friend of mine from Waukegan, IL. For me, there are definite deal breakers that never deserve a second date, such as: Thank goodness that these definite deal breakers are more the exception than the rule!!!