Women dating man 20 years older
This isn’t to say that the reverse doesn’t create a heated discussion.
A middle-aged man who gets divorced and wants to date 25-year-old women gets ridiculed for that even more than for buying the red convertible Corvette. Historically, men have been providers for women and children, so an older man can provide while a younger woman can bear the kids.
Everyone was shocked at unusual pairing, and even more so at their very amorous behavior. Recently, I read a blog where a separated, late-40s woman stated that she wanted advice on how to land a much younger man – say, late 20s or early 30s.
Men her age don’t take care of themselves, she claimed, and they couldn’t keep up with her energetic, fit self.
Some people struggle with the idea that many women have begun dating younger men. When someone, male or female, wants to ONLY date someone younger than themselves, especially if MUCH younger, they aren’t looking for love – they’re looking for an ego boost.
But more people struggle with the opposite notion: why younger men would want to date older women. But Census data don’t lie: from 1960 to 2007, marriages where the wife is at least five years older have increased, and marriages where the man is at least five years older have decreased. Men want to date older women because they are, on average, more independent, more confident, more successful, and more into sex. This isn’t my opinion – this is what the men have said. You will see this behavior in separated or recently divorced people who are middle-aged or older, like the woman I mentioned early in this post.
“This Cougar thing is a fad,” my Dad said recently. It’s just for sex.” To my Dad, someone who has a history of choosing younger women, it doesn’t add up. But older women aren’t as hot as younger women, some argue. Anyone can look good when they get older, if they’re willing to put in some effort. These people aren’t impressed with what they see in their age bracket and swear they’re “different” than people their age.
the other day (I admit it, I still love that show).
The dating expert told her to get over herself and the readers’ commentary ensued.If you want to get people into a heated discussion, forget politics or religion – bring up an older woman wanting to date a man half her age.