Black women, however, are stereotyped as being loud, aggressive, angry and bitter. And they are too often judged as other women derogatorily are — as a b****, and the term “black” b**** is used in that case.And let’s face it, black women are judged against the European standards of beauty by which our society undeniably still abides. If a black woman is angry, it is not assumed that she is just a woman who is experiencing the emotion of anger in the moment. Black women are associated with strength, for they are not often seen as nothing more than a strong “black” woman. In the media, we often see black women portrayed as single mothers and matriarchal in nature.These relationships were no different than those in my racial category except for one dirty little issue: race.Most of these relationships did not succeed or fail because of race, but it was disturbing to me that race and the stereotypes attached to them were ever an issue in the first place.I have continually wondered why my race is so important, but never so much as in past dating experiences.
Society has answered the question of “ain’t I a woman,” with yes, but you’re a “black” woman. They are supposed to hold the family together because there is no man there to do it for them.Black women, and minority women in general, are usually held responsible for instilling culture and maintaining it.This is one of the reasons, among others, black women in particular may choose not to date outside their race.Black men are more likely to intermarry and date than black women and herein lies another disturbing trend.
lack women are the least likely to marry outside of their race or get married at all, according to the latest census data. I’m a black woman who has dated outside of her race extensively.It follows that they are also the least likely to date outside of their race. Not only that, but my only serious relationship has been with a man outside of my race.